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Friday, August 30, 2013

#SatSpanks ... Then I may spank you until you orgasm.

Last Sunday, I shared all 525 words I had written in my WIP nicknamed "the 5." I just couldn't seem to get much farther. Then I thought- maybe I need to start back with Etan and Harlequin's meeting. I'm happy to say I now have 6 times the amount of story I had starting Thursday morning. Don't worry :D If you enjoy these characters, be assured you'll see more. I just need to get out of my funk and let little Harlequin enjoy her first spanking while resting against Etan's strong thighs.

For those who didn't read the 525 word post, let me summarize. "The Five" is the growing story of a poly leather family, growing from just a dom and a sub to a five person family of different genders, orientations, and roles.

Well here's hoping for a virtual spanking for a few too many lines and a real one from my Master sometime this weekend because I'm hopelessly wound and writing has slowed down again :(. Update: told my Master about my joking here... no comments for the headmistress, but His response to His part was to engage in breath play and anal intercourse- said it worked just as good as a spanking at unwinding me, but without 5 mins of spanking tiring His arm out lmao.

Scene set up- After a wanna-be dom loudly dismisses Harlequin for a poorly prepared cup of coffee, Etan swoops in to enjoy the lost little girl and maybe teach her a lesson or two they'll both enjoy. He gets the story from her on when she first learned about BDSM, from sneaking around and finding her mum's copy of Story of O. Here they've moved to a private playroom in the club at which they met.

Up to 8 sentences of spanking fun on a Saturday :) Please make sure to use the links at the bottom to visit my fellow spankers and spankees :D

Enjoy the 8 lines of spanking fun and visit the other spankos :) links below

"When I asked you want you liked of Story of O, you made a comment on the storytelling and then talked about the sex with O masked. What were your thoughts on things like the flogging, paddling, any pain play?"

"It... it..." Harlequin gasped at Etan's large hand settled on her thigh. "The fantasy turned me... on, but I'm not sure, Sir. In real life, Sir."

"Of course." Etan gestured at a near-by table. "Do you see that mask and the other items?"

"Yes, Sir."

"I want to put that mask on you before turning you onto your stomach and watching you experience those various things touching your skin. Then I want to give you a spanking, just a few slaps, unless you're obviously enjoying it. Then I may spank you until you orgasm."

"Yes, Sir." Harlequin's hips moved just so her body hovered above his legs for a moment. She settled back down against him.

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Safer sex in an erotic romance novel?

I was reading on Twitter.com one day and found this page called "Just Get Tested"- you can find links to their website, Facebook page, and Twitter profile at the bottom of this post. A few tweeted conversations later with the person who runs their page and I found myself asking a beta reader about what she noticed in terms of safer sex- she hadn't noticed a thing. Well having lost friends to HIV/AIDS when I was a teen just coming to terms with my sexuality, I had to know what I'd done in my erotic romance.

I was slightly amused when I tried searching "condom," "orgasm," and "cum" [my preferred slang term for male ejaculate] in both "Out of the Night: Book One" and "Gates of the Garden: Book Two." On "condom," I found the word 4 times in "Night" and not at all in "Gates."

Now if you've read "Night" you know that Mearr/Vala likes to talk directly to the reader; please go here for purchasing information if you haven't read "Night" yet. The first thing I want to share comes from early in "Night" when Mearr talks to the reader about becoming ready to change, to accept The Queen's help:

[Excerpt from "Out of the Night: Book One" by Joelle Casteel]

I was lucky and never caught HIV or another STD. Damn lucky! And I entirely owed it to the kids at the gay high school who gave me condoms all the time.

The day after The Queen brought Mearr home, just pages in fact after the previous snippet, two of The Queen's slaves (Tommy and Simon) come to the loft to prepare breakfast. Mearr, even before she's renamed herself Vala, is already at her bratting :D.

[Excerpt from "Out of the Night: Book One" by Joelle Casteel]

Tommy brought two plates, heaped with food, to the table and placed one in front of The Queen and then Mearr. He knelt next to The Queen. "Simon and I can leave now and return when you wish us to clean up. Is this acceptable, my Queen?"

While The Queen's attention was diverted, Mearr rushed to her jacket and grabbed a condom. She dove under the table and crawled to him. Her hands moved up his legs and stopped on his belly just above his cock. Suddenly she took his cock into her mouth, making loud slurping noises for Tommy and Simon's benefit.

"Ah... yes... good," The Queen choked out, gesturing wildly at the door as his cheeks colored.

The Queen and Mearr then have some amazing sex that includes everything on the kitchen table getting knocked to the floor and a few moves across the room. After they've both enjoyed their orgasms, this conversation takes place, The Queen speaking first:

[Excerpt from "Out of the Night: Book One" by Joelle Casteel]

"I am glad to see you grabbed a condom."

She nodded. "It's habit, thankfully, though I've always dreamed of getting the chance to have sex without one."

He laughed. "Some day I will have to explain how we handle safer sex in my stable." He kissed her cheek. "Are you on birth control? Do I need to get you some?"

"Yes, please, I need to get on birth control," Mearr replied.

Six months passed that the newly renamed Vala summarized, time in which not only her HIV/STD tests came back negative, but also as she recovered from her drug abuse and anorexia. So yes, I admit- dental dams not mentioned. I've never quite been able to get into their use so I admit my failure to mention them at all is personal. However considering the rigorous standards, which The Queen's slave Mandisa explain to Vala here when she got to ask his stable questions before joining, I feel the family maintains decent safety standards without the use of dental dams. Vala asks:

[Excerpt from "Out of the Night: Book One" by Joelle Casteel]

"What about condoms? Do we all use them here? Where're they kept? Or is this something I won't have to worry about 'cause of the class I'll be in after being collared?"

"Dr. Lindemann comes for a visit every few months and tests us all for HIV and other STDs," Mandisa explained. "Everyone is disease-free and all females are on some form of birth control so we don't use condoms with each other. With certain friends of The Queen's, like Prince Synn, condom use is optional and The Queen will tell you beforehand."

"Otherwise, outside of the stable means condoms, but you won't get to have sex with anyone without permission, so you don't need to worry where the condoms are," Simon added with a cocky grin.

Then we get to "Gates of the Garden: Book Two" (soon-to-be-released). And yes, as I mentioned at the beginning, the word "condom" doesn't show up once. This is the second book in the series, just about half of her first week as The Queen's slave. She's already shown as disease-free and has only had the chance to have sex with (using condoms every time) the disease-free The Queen, Tommy, and Simon. Of course, Simon's correct- Vala doesn't have the chance to have sex with anyone besides the The Queen and his stable. They are what is considered by polyamorous people as "practicing fluid fidelity."

A bad start to the day means that Vala and Iona (another member of the stable) "restart" The Queen's day. Here you see his orgasm:

[Excerpt from "Gates of the Garden: Book Two" by Joelle Casteel]

When The Queen's groans boomed out of control, Vala rolled off him to the opposite side of Iona. She took his cock into her mouth, taking his loving cum into her, and pulled back. Iona whimpered as she sucked on his cock. After he let out a long, trembling moan, she sat up and grabbed Vala to her, their mouths open with the kiss, their Queen's love flowing between them. They swallowed each other's kisses, one hand holding the other's head.

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Friday, August 23, 2013

#SatSpanks... The Beginning?

Up to 8 sentences of spanking fun on a Saturday :) Please make sure to use the links at the bottom to visit my fellow spankers and spankees :D

Enjoy the 8 lines of spanking fun and visit the other spankos :) links below

and yes, the funny title, I meant to share this snippet first, but well, I'm not good at rules and order :D

Like my Master and I knew we would have BDSM in our relationship even before we started dating, before He collared me, before He married me, Bruce and Thora knew. Another snippet from her POV.

"Ever heard the term 'domestic discipline?" Bruce squeezed Arya's thigh for a moment before laying his hand flat on it.

"Oh, yeah. I've read some online. You're into that?" That sounded hopelessly stupid.

"Since the very beginning of our marriage."

"Mind I ask how long ago that was?"

"We just celebrated our ninth anniversary a few weeks ago."

It's getting close to time for Thora's spanking...

Thursday, August 22, 2013

What one notices about a Dom

I was with my then-husband. We were walking onto the dance floor at a goth club we frequented. When I saw Him, I was grateful then-husband and I were already polyamorous. I noticed His eyes first, the warmth, the kindness, the passion for living in them- I still love gazing into my Master's eyes even these 13 years later. Then my gaze slid down His regal nose to His mouth- instant contact with every erotic fiber of my body. Those lips, and the way He smiled. Then I broadened out to His hair. The rich brown, the long curls- if I danced at all, and we had danced, I'm fairly unsure it would have been indecent :D but then we were at a club. I imagined burying my hands in that hair as He held me down and fucked me until I was begging to come. Finally I noticed the trifecta of His clothes (Renaissance garb), hands (large), and height (6'6")- I'd managed a perfect guess on His height.

So there we have maybe the first 15 seconds after I saw my Master. It didn't matter that then-husband was there; we tried to make a go at poly triad, but ex was too immature and self-centered. It didn't matter that Master's ex-girlfriend Molly was there; He thankfully gave her the boot before I acted on my desire to beat the living shit out of her for how she hurt Him. Eyes, mouth, hair, clothes, hands, height- in roughly that order.

Now I thought of this for a few reason. My editor, especially in "Gates of the Garden: Book Two," has been a stickler for wanting more details, like being reminded of Vala's red hair or The Queen's blue eyes. Then as I was writing "Week Long" for Camp Nano in July, I got the chance to look at The Queen and his stable through the eyes of five "hopefuls." I pondered at times- would Miwa notice what Iona was wearing? What would Egil think of the natural black mixed with unnatural, fire engine red bangs that Raanan's currently wearing? Since "Week Long" is done in first draft and "Gates" is with two beta readers for a final look before publishing, I'm on to other work. My main fictional focus is "Looking for Our Unicorn"- where the story unfolds first through the eyes of "the unicorn" Arya as she glimpses Bruce and Thora and hopes. I keep pondering, what are the three of them seeing? Are they seeing the physical? I know, as a queer woman in a male/female couple looking for our unicorn, that the physical is likely to be just a small part for me, and isn't likely to be given more than the 15 seconds I spent looking at my Master before I knew I wanted to have sex with Him (then-husband was very helpful by saying "My wife wants to have sex with you" lol) and that I wanted Him to be my Master; somehow I knew He'd do a much better job than Tom ever had and well as a Master, husband, and parenting partner, He has.

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Who is Iona?

I'm going to treat to you 2 snippets of Iona, one from "Out of the Night: Book One" and a tease of a scene from the to-be-released "Gates of the Garden: Book Two."

Excerpt from Out of the Night: Book One.

"Iona, step forward."

A small, dark female slipped forward from behind the couch. She had to be even shorter than Vala, barely five foot if that. With her beautiful dark skin and hair, she showed a strong Greek heritage. Her spun cotton hair framed lovely, haunting eyes that gleamed like polished amethyst. It swayed behind her as she walked, stroking her luscious ass. Her graceful body seemed to change, to electrify the air around her.

Vala felt the strongest desire to fall to her knees before this heavenly creature.

Iona bent to one knee in front of The Queen, bending over just enough further to kiss his feet as she murmured, "My Queen."

The Queen lovingly smiled at Iona. He reached out to run his index finger down her jaw and pressed her back to her heels. "This is Iona. She has been mine six years now. She was a waitress at a Denny's when we met. She fell asleep while taking my order so I paid for the coffee, told her boss that she quit, and brought her home with me. I believe she had been awake for a week that time. She does not like sleeping and she hates sleeping alone. Do not be surprised if, from time to time, she crawls into my bed."

This one I definitely need to get to know better, Vala thought.

Iona smiled, her eyes on The Queen's feet. "My Queen." She rose and glided back to her seat.

Out of the Night: Book One (Vala's Story)
print edition
available at Lulu.com's Market Place or available on Amazon.com

Now if you haven't bought "Out of the Night: Book One" yet, you can pick it up here and get reading before I release "Gates of the Garden: Book Two" in the next month or so. Here are the buy links:

MyAwesomeFans fanstore
(multiple formats available at both sites)

If you'd prefer to wait for it to be available on Amazon, B&N, or AllRomanceEbooks, bookmark my "My Books" page and you can find out when they become available.

And if you'd like to rock a t-shirt that The Queen would approve of :D check out the "Behavior Doesn't Solely Determine Identity" t-shirt available for $20 at the MyAwesomeFans fanstore.

"Out of the Night: Book One" blurb

Restless and world-weary, Mearr isn't about to admit she needs anyone's help, even this gorgeous man who has taken her into his home. Well one of his homes and part of this huge family she's heard about but not met all of. She's young, looks young, and knows it but at least she's legal now so she can pick a new name to go with her new life...

The Queen knows he wants Mearr bad, ever since the first time he saw her in the window of the coffeehouse. He has his plan, but even a Dominant's plans don't always survive the unpredictability of the future. He struggles to figure out this temperamental woman he's brought home, how best to help her. Then he takes her to his mansion...

They wait patiently for The Queen to bring Mearr home. Well to the home they've been redecorating for Him and for the hopes that she'll become part of their family and be trained to please Him. Simon and Tommy have seen her, of course, being The Queen's right and left hands; they say she'll be a perfect addition...

Please come along with Joelle on this journey, shared with the readers in serial fashion. A multitude of "Happily-ever-afters" are waiting with the completion of book 9.
Author's Note: This novel is meant for open-minded adults. Activities described include a wide range of BDSM and sexual activities, some of which are male/male, male/female, consensual slavery, oral/anal/vaginal intercourse, bondage. The story also covers some sensitive topics in characters' backstories, such as drug abuse.

And now "Gates of the Garden: Book Two"- what could be so bad The Queen needs Iona and Vala's tender loving care?

Iona and Vala drew close to The Queen, three mouths joined in one kiss.

Vala and Iona closed their eyes then opened them. "Good morning, my Queen."

"Good morning, my beautiful little slaves." The Queen laughed and kissed them roughly. "Thank you for restarting my day."


Vala is very comfortable in her new life, her new name. She's hopelessly in love, with The Queen, with Iona, with life. She's learning about BDSM and knows The Queen has many surprises, lessons planned for her. She's looking forward to ceremony day...

The Queen considers, stresses, ponders. Sometimes he goes to Simon for help, especially since Tommy messed up so bad. He's considering things in the long term as he watches Vala blossom into what he wants her to be...

Things are settling down and they aren't for the rest of the stable. Tommy did so mess things up, but at least there's Vala's training to entertain, to occupy the stable as The Queen uses them in the ways he needs. Abrecan, Orlee, and Gaelan struggle to come to terms with what one decision did to their lives in the stable...

Please come along with Joelle on this journey, shared with the readers in serial fashion. A multitude of "Happily-ever-afters" are waiting with the completion of book 9.
Author's Note: This novel is meant for open-minded adults. Activities described include a wide range of BDSM and sexual activities, some of which are male/male, male/female, consensual slavery, oral/anal/vaginal intercourse, bondage. The story also covers some sensitive topics in characters' backstories, such as drug abuse.

Friday, August 16, 2013

#SatSpanks How many strokes?

Up to 8 sentences of spanking fun on a Saturday :) Please make sure to use the links at the bottom to visit my fellow spankers and spankees :D

Maybe I need to buy a pretty brush? my Master has this "beater stick" as He calls it, and it's okay, and He's even taught me to like it okay- I used to hate it- but I think a pretty paddle brush like what Bruce uses on Thora would be nicer.

How will you do this? Arya licked her lips.

Bruce whacked Thora's ass with quick strokes, moving from one cheek and back to the other.

Thora sighed. "Thank you."

Maintenance equals five each cheek for them.

Bruce rubbed Thora's punished skin. "Turn onto your back, sweet."

Hips swishing slowly, Thora rolled toward Bruce and Arya. Her ass rested on the couch between them.

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Vala is IN training

Sometimes as the author of a series, I forget that my readers aren't privy to all the copious notes, schedules, sketches I've made. Sure, The Queen's stable diagrams are there, but that doesn't compare to what I have at my fingertips. And when various readers complained about "too many characters" in "Out of the Night: Book One," I got irritated- can't you tell I'm writing a series? There'll be time! Do I need to spoon feed you just the little bit of pablum you can handle? (Yeah, I was channeling and agreeing with some of my Master's favorite vents when it comes to popular media.)

A big topic among authors- whether they be professionals, amateurs, competing in National Novel Writing Month etc etc- is whether you write with an outline or "write by the seat of your pants." I'm somewhere between the two, having cobbled together my own style.

While I don't want to give away all my surprises :D, I am going to show you the schedule for Vala's first two weeks of training.

Week 1:
Collaring ceremony: Etiquette: titles, towards other Doms & subs, proper demeanor; Philosophical discussion of obedience
Week 2:
Obedience games with Vala as sub

Do you notice something? No details of when formal dinners are happening. No day-to-day living. This schedule's purpose was simply to detail for me to see what The Queen wanted Vala trained in and, in lessons after these, which of his other slaves were being used to teach Vala the lesson. Because the primary point of "Vala's Story" is to show her training to be The Queen's slave.

Another of those things I forget- I've gotten to "see" Vala while she was still Mearr at the beginning of the series, all the way to the end of her training... and now even beyond having written a spin-off that's almost a sequel to the Vala's Story series. Sometimes I find myself irritated at comments about Vala's progress and I want to say as one BR pointed out "people needing to be patient and giving Vala time to learn and grow through the books. The more they read, the more they're going to see her grow." But schedule aside, Vala's progress hasn't been a straight line, just as it isn't for a person in real life.

Monday, August 12, 2013

A Question of Names

Okay, so I admit, this post was mostly promoted by two things- many of the comments on this Saturday Spankings blog hop post and a comment in a Facebook sexy romance writers group I'm in on a promo for my "cleaning in The Queen's house" post. What it comes down to, whether the language used to make the point is polite or rude (and I've seen both), is someone has an issue with a "male named The Queen." Yes, "Vala's Story" as a whole is my "book baby"- my first love as far as my writing is concerned. And The Queen is a fictional character, albeit based on two men who've meant a ton in my life. But these don't really explain why I get so angry about people struggling with The Queen's name.

You see, a person's name is a very important thing in my real life, my offline life. I come to the conversation bringing 1st and 2nd hand experiences from multiple marginalized identities.

As a queer person (UUA's Queer 101 page provides more explanation of how I use the word), I long ago moved past understanding sexuality and gender issues in the male/female, heterosexual/homosexual binaries that are still too prevalent in this culture (if you're asking my opinion). "That's a girl's name," "that's a boy's name" are less relevant in my word. However, I am a cisgender (born that way and comfortable in that gender) female so I cannot speak directly to the transgender experience around name. I've seen transpeople decide on a post-transition name that's close to their birth name (like going from Michael to Michelle, as a male-to-female transgender person); as well, I've seen people, including close friends, pick names very far from their birth name (like moving from Sandra to John, as female-to-male transgender). Of course, within the transgender experience is also the question of pronouns- while I'm not perfect on it, I try to use a variety of "created pronouns" that I've seen transactivists use- like ze or hir. In a recent vent on someone being confused about The Queen's gender, I angrily typed at a friend- "I said HE. Repeatedly said fucking HE. His boy! Him!" To me, around issues of sexuality and gender, the only reasonable choice is respect what the person indicates. A transgender person asks to be called "he"- it DOES NOT matter what *you* think of his gender presentation- that person is male, is a he. Back to The Queen, I have conceived of him as a cisgender male who identifies as queer in the UUA's usage of the word. Yes, he has long hair that reaches down to the middle of his back and he has sex, makes love, engages in BDSM activities with people of varying genders (I say genders because I don't accept the societal construction of there being just 2) and sexual orientations. That does not mean someone else gets to say he's anything but male- he says he's male!

The next piece of naming for me is around BDSM. Now remember for me, BDSM is about identity, not something "I just do in bed." That's not to say that people who keep their BDSM just in the bedroom are necessarily less, but I find sometimes there's a very different outlook to someone like me. With BDSM, whatever your specific identity (top, bottom, sub, dom, Master/Mistress, slave, etc), there are multiple levels of risk to being open about "how you are." People have lost jobs, custody of minor children, housing, and more due to having a kink identity. I'm very involved in Leather and Grace UUs for BDSM Awareness because even amongst the "affirming & welcoming" Unitarian Universalist faith moment, often hard to have a kink-oriented identity. (Read here for our moderator's telling of a case of discrimination that recently came to us from a couple who have experienced horrendous discrimination in UU circles.) Beyond these worries around keeping anonymity to avoid discrimination, there is also the fact that for some (maybe even many) people, they come to BDSM bringing different pieces of themselves- they want a new, different name for this piece of themselves. So naming 2 reasons that people might use "scene names" as they are called, let us consider The Queen. Now do please notice the capitalized The. Every time. Both words. The Queen. That is how the name was given (by a loved one) to The Queen and that's how he chooses to use it. That started in part as his scene name, the name he used as a dominant just learning his trade. He chose it; it's *our* job to respect his choice.

Thinking on the ideas of "abuse/re-creating oneself," my first thought was about my friend Patricia Logan's character "Trick," in her "Master's Boys" series. Another character (variously called Ivan, Phoenix, or Master P, depending on who's speaking and the situation- names, see?) who I'll call by her character name of Phoenix works to give "Trick's" self-respect back by refusing to use that name and instead using the man's birth name of Wade. Summarizing his back story (without giving away too much, because you really should follow the link attached to Trick's name, buy the book, and getting to reading Ms. Logan's works because her books are among the small group of BDSM books I'll personally recommend)- as a teen, he's found in a sexual situation with another boy by closed minded parents who then throw him out, and he finds himself engaging in survival prostitution- so he names himself Trick. I've had friends who were thrown out for this reason (being non-heterosexual) and many more saddening reasons. I've known the archetypal "Trick"- the boy thrown to the street by uncaring parents. Throughout my "Vala's Story" series, The Queen's back story comes out- sometimes in drips, sometimes in floods, as in an early scene in "Gates of the Garden: Book Two." His was not a good childhood, a happy, a loving one. It was not a childhood to wish on any human being. The thing is, I've known people who've gone through similar crap to what The Queen's parents did to him. So he ran away; he escaped... and in escaping he went through different ways of calling himself until his dear friend Lady Audrey gave him his new name, The Queen. Far from the abused boy from Michigan, moving away from the street kid who ze found having been beaten up by a "john." In that moment thinking of the abuse back story I wrote for The Queen, thinking of people who I've known who've gone through that lack of love- how is someone who hasn't experienced any of that hell to see it's not his right to chose a name other than what his parents named him at birth?

Finally, there's nicknames. Sometimes they become even more important than a given name. My Master was given- I don't remember the details of who/how exactly- but by friends. For a long time, He's followed a shamanic spiritual path. So "Shaman." That's the first name I learned for Him as a person. I didn't know His given name, the childhood nickname (that His mom still uses and I fight giggles constantly at His slight irritation- "no one but my mom gets away with calling me that"- when she calls Him that nickname... these all took me time to learn. I still struggle to call Him His given name when for some reason I need to use it. He has chosen to often use that nickname of Shaman; it is "His name." Who am I to question it? Different people groups who've had shamans have allowed for people across the gender spectrum to be shamans- is that supposed to affect Shaman, the fact that there have been female shamans, and He's a cisgender male? And so we have The Queen. "Queen" is normally used for women, yes. Does that mean that people should question The Queen's choice as a cisgender male to call himself by a "feminine" nickname? I think not.

The Queen speaks:

Do you want me to pull down my jeans so you can check what's between my legs? Check if there's a cock or a pussy between my legs? Gender is more than what's between the legs- it's also about what's between the ears, what's in the heart. I am male! I interact with the world as a male, even with the complexity of what that means in this culture. My name is my own and you can go fuck yourself if you think I should change it to something regular.

Friday, August 9, 2013

#SatSpanks Thora's Ritual

Up to 8 sentences of spanking fun on a Saturday :) Please make sure to use the links at the bottom to visit my fellow spankers and spankees :D

We're back to "Looking for Our Unicorn" this week. But will you all allow me another week's teasing :D? Because Thora's kneeling in front of Bruce, as least I believe I have her kneeling, and she's reciting the words that make him hard, even if he keeps his expression even until after the maintenance spanking is done...

Thora licked her lips. "I can get flaky. I can get short tempered. I can behave in ways I don't like toward you, my love. So I ask for my spanking to remind me that you are in control and that's the way we both want it."

Bruce nodded.

The continuation of Vala's spanking from last Sunday is here and the chance to win that autographed print copy of "Out of the Night: Book One" (where we start with Mearr/Vala, The Queen and his family) is still open until midnight EST Sunday rolls around. http://joellecasteel.blogspot.com/2013/08/give-me-just-little-more-of-that.html

BDSM servitude

I know I've talked about service in BDSM on this blog. As I said yesterday- when I was bratting- service is one of my favorite things. When I write The Queen and his slaves in Vala's Story at the coffeehouse Night, their serves are often based on considerable personal experience. Okay so you have your points, not necessarily prioritized, to go on with- yes, I'm almost ordered today :D. What I wouldn't give for a "Simon" to help me, as I joked yesterday. :D

Online pages, groups
In trying to recommend pages about BDSM service that called me to laugh out loud, say "This page seems to think there's 'one twue way' to practice BDSM" and then I closed the page without going further :D. Sadly there was less (that I could find) than I expected there would be when I wrote "online research needed on BDSM groups/pages needed" when I was working offline on this article.

So I looked around to see what I could find. First off is an interesting summary about BDSM servitude on Wikipedia- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Servitude_(BDSM) . Some of it gave me the giggles, but really it is only meant to be an overview.

I highly appreciated what this short article had to say about service: http://madisonkink.com/definitions-in-bdsm-service/ Especially how the author talked about the multiplicity of roles within BDSM. One particular quote I enjoyed: "Service, in the form of a domestic, is time and energy for cleaning and such, but is also where a dominant gives complete trust to the person to do what is asked, and lets the service person take control." Because yes, my Master doesn't stand over me as I accomplish various cleaning things, hence the next point of "helps."

Finally because Fetlife is the only BDSM community (off Facebook and the limits of what we can talk about there without getting banned etc), I wanted to give you the link to the service oriented group I'm in on there. Of course, my involvement is spotty- like when I'm more engaged in service around the house, I'm less involved in the group :D. You may need a FL account just to view the group, but here is the link: https://fetlife.com/groups/1700 . This is the group mentioned in the "helps" section, where yes, we kinksters have talked about Flylady at times :D.

I'm sad to admit, I'm about to go into a "My mother..." story here. My mother's 1st husband was an abusive alcoholic for whom she was a perfect homemaker- my summary of "family lore" on the subject. By the time she got to marriage to my dad & my childhood. she'd learned how to have a house the looked like a magazine photo without seeming to do any work- probably in part because I was pretty stationary, reading or playing with my My Little Ponies. So as a young wife and mother, I started to teach myself the skills she never taught me. Even though there is still the rare cleaning I don't know, for me it's more about the failure to time budget. I love the Flylady system and when Master says I can (based on budget) use it, "Saving Dinner" menu planning (although I admit to currently avoiding some of her materials like her podcasts because she's on a "paleo diet" kick, which I just find irritating). In fact, I'm just about to start re-reading "Sink Reflections" (by Maria Cilley, the "Flylady") again; I've read it many times over the years since my Master collared me. She has a whole system, books, tools, etc so I'll leave her to explain that on her page, if you're interested. Many Flylady forums are rather conservative Christian, but I've found her even being talked about in BDSM service oriented groups (like the one on Fetlife that I belong to).

Types of service that I don't get
I've seen sexual service mentioned, but from my relationship based POV, I don't get it. Unfortunately again, going on Google to search the term "sexual service" didn't net me much. Shrugs, maybe it's a way of saying "prostitution" that has less baggage? Now I know I've seen the term on BDSM pages, but fuck if I can find it now. ugh. One thing I did find- sexual service and domestic service are both things you can easily search for and find in "BDSM want ads." LOL Equally unfamiliar in practice to me is service only (no sexual interaction) BDSM service situations. When I've seen ads about then, it reads to me as a "maid with fetish terms used." However the FL group I gave you the link to has more information on non-sexual service, if that's what you're interested in.

If you're a submissive (or whatever "bottom" role you prefer) serving your dominant (or whatever role He/She/Ze prefers), remember most important is to serve as the dominant wants, as you both agreed to, not according to some page's, book's, or other person's explanation of what service is.

Monday, August 5, 2013

Point-of-view erotica?

It can be funny sometimes, the things you learn and why you learn them. I never cared too much to learn the many genres within pornography- I tended to follow a policy of "I'll watch a little bit of anything to see if it does anything for me." So I had no clue about this idea of "Point-of-view pornography." The idea of showing the action so that any guy (and yes, to my knowledge, POV porn is most often filmed with the male heterosexual in mind) can imagine himself having sex with the porn actress in the film.

Well after my editor finished with "Gates of the Garden: Book Two" of Vala's Story series, I found myself questioning a bunch of stuff. One thing she specifically mentioned was thinking that in erotica or erotic romance, that breast and cock size would be mentioned. True, it's a trope- talk of hard, large cocks going deep into pussies. I cringe every time I hear a porn actress say anything along the lines of "You're so deep." And on breast size? That's it's own hurdle for me- see, I'm 4'11" and until my Master was able to marry me and put me on His insurance, I suffered all too many years with breasts too big for my frame. I still struggle, thinking of my breasts as "those ugly bags of fat," even though thankfully my Master likes smaller breasts so He enjoys the full Cs (I think C, I don't wear a bra anymore so I'm not sure) the plastic surgeon gave me.

I talked to two beta readers and my Master about the cock/breast size question. All three supported my decision not to talk about these details unless really necessary. My Master made a comment that made me really ponder. He's never read anything from Vala's Story, although He's read some of my stuff, including the 1st person scenes I love to write, often fantasies or recreations of what He and I have done. He said it sounds like what I'm doing is writing POV porn; as I think it, any tall man can easily envision himself to be like The Queen, any smaller woman can envision herself to be like Vala. And of course, the rest of The Queen's stable opens this possibility up for a variety of body types.

I am currently in my final revision for "Gates." I'm hoping to have the print edition out through Lulu by next week, the Kindle and Nook hopefully not that much longer- the stable diagrams make ebook formatting a bit tricky though. Sure, I'm working to add some details, like commenting on Kaya's braids bouncing against her shoulders. I even mentioned Mandisa's large breasts, but then I've written her as a larger woman (tall for a woman, large boned) so I don't feel bad about giving her large breasts that she enjoys using to turn The Queen on. But no, I won't talk about The Queen's cock size. For some it's not the size but the relationship with the person to whom the cock is attached. For Vala, The Queen's cock is her Master's cock, one part of his sexual response and the size doesn't matter really; it just matters hearing him moan, sigh groan, grunt etc when she touches it, licks it, takes it in her mouth and on and on.

Friday, August 2, 2013

#SatSpanks ... To please Him, she will

Because I am a superior brat :D you'll have to wait another week to see Thora get her spanking. Can we, can we please move on to the tawse, Headmistress? Now I'm doing the last edits for my second book in Vala's Story, "Gates of the Garden: Book Two." I was thinking, thinking on spankings and thought of this one. It's maybe 22 pages into the book and Vala's had only her first lesson. The Queen pauses to give her a spanking because he wants to, because he wants her ass red.

8 lines of spanking fun- well cough cough, another reason I need a spanking because I'm pushing it a little to 9 :D Please read the other spankos' blog post. links at the bottom

smirks... bottom  :D

The Queen alternately slapped and squeezed Vala's ass. Pinching where he’d left a dark handprint, he grinned when she arched upward off his lap. "Does it hurt bad yet?"

"Yes, my Queen!" Vala cried and shuddered against The Queen.

Eyes closed for a moment, The Queen groaned. "But you can endure it to please me?"

Vala struggled with sobs and whimpers pouring out of her mouth. "For you, my Queen." She coughed, her tears running down her cheeks.

What music do you like to fuck to?

So not exactly a kink :D but it was a thought that came to me. Background noise. Now this is one of those few things my Master and I will argue about- He needs TV on to help Him sleep. He finds stand up comedians help the most; I have an almost violent hatred of many of the comedians He likes- think Larry the Cable Guy. Whether He's spanking me, going down on me, beating me, fucking me, letting me enjoy myself giving Him a BJ- I don't want to hear any of Larry's insipid catch phrases in the background.

Unfortunately our music tastes are quite divergent. The radio station I listen to the most plays rock that ranges from 70s rock like Black Sabbath and AC/DC all the way up to today with Volbeat, Three Days Grace, and Halestorm, just to name a few. He prefers the oldies station that plays through the 50s to the 80s. Well I like that station too, just not exclusively.

I used to maintain a bunch of playlists that were attuned to certain gender/sexual expression pairings. Male/female BDSM and male/male tended to be one list, female/female another, male/male another, just to name a few divisions. Now I tend to go by bands. Like I'll put on a Depeche Mode concert if I'm writing all men scenes, regardless of the number of men involved. Marilyn Manson and Nine Inch Nails are still favorites for any genders and BDSM. I have one an interesting one though; Bright Eyes "Lover I don't have to love" is a favorite for male/female pairings. :D I do remember one really hot time when my Master dragged me to bed as that song played loudly on repeat.

So I wanna hear, what music do you like to fuck to? :D

Thursday, August 1, 2013

My Tendency to Rebellion?

Too funny... I start this with Marilyn Manson's "Para-noir" playing. Supposedly about his failed marriage with Dita Von Teese. I'm not sure it is, don't really care. Yeah, there's a few lines that even get a lip curl out of me as I sing along. Not that the song ever makes me think of my Master :D.

Yes, my tendency to rebellion. I find it amusing- the stereotype of a submissive as a doormat, a beaten down woman. Maybe a woman experiencing domestic abuse, maybe a certain type of submissive fits that stereotype, but not this submissive. I once had a UU minister tell me he couldn't imagine me being submissive because I'm often so decisive when I make a decision.

I forget what book it's in (in Vala's Story), who Tommy is even talking to, but I love at one point where he basically says, "I'm really still a teenager, never had to pay bills, and grow up." I don't remember if he says it, but I'm sure it's implied- "pretty good The Queen takes care of me." Well with my Master, I tend to waver somewhere between Simon and Tommy- I take care of most things (not always perfectly lol) like Simon but behavior-wise, I'm often quite Tommy-I-never-really-grew up. I posted triumphantly in my Facebook status message- "I swear more than my teen." Because I probably do. I mean, just in writing alone; I use ass, cunt, fuck, and all sorts of related words constantly.

I like to joke- without the force of law, it's only a basic politeness that keeps me from telling most people off. Of course, my Master likes to joke that I put things through some "weird Joelle polite filter"- I do that too much, true, especially when being blunt in speech will be more helpful. Master quite enjoyed being at science fiction conventions with me when He first collared me to see me rip into some guy who'd made the mistake of telling me what to do- I can have quite a mouth on me when irritated.

Now my playlist is on to a Rage Against the Machine song. Yup, there's occasional bellows as I sing along with Zack, some rather leftist political chanting going on at points. Don't tell me what the fuck to do. Surprised I'm a submissive yet? :D

It's different with my Master though. I chose to beg His collar, to accept it. But then, He never wanted to break me, to tame me, like The Queen wanting to make Vala better, more than she was.