#FFFiction my review of "A Woman Like That: Lesbian and Bisexual Writers Tell Their Coming Out Stories"

I invite you to consider what makes a woman. Some Fridays, I'll even share something sexy :D.

"A Woman Like That: Lesbian and Bisexual Writers Tell Their Coming Out Stories" edited by Joan Larkin

I rarely do this, but I'm going to review this book before I've finished reading it- I'm really struggling to finish the book. If the title didn't mention bisexuals, if the book's focus was only lesbian writers and their coming out stories, wouldn't hesitate to give this book 5 stars; as it is, I feel 4 stars. 31 authors' stories were included, of which I've read all but the last 12. I often wonder how the coming out experience of a GLBT person has affected their writing so I've enjoyed this anthology so much based on the sharing of often silenced voices. By that same point though, as a bisexual woman, the nominal inclusion of bisexual identified women's voices offends and angers me. Bi-invisibility and -erasure is such a huge problem in both heterosexual and GLBT communities; I would hope the editors of this anthology would be more thoughtful of that.

#FFFiction A raging poem of a non-monosexual woman who loves women

I invite you to consider what makes a woman. Some Fridays, I'll even share something sexy :D.

So I'm reading "A Woman Like that: Lesbian and Bisexual Writers Tell Their Coming Out Stories," edited by Joan Larkin. I'll eventually review the book- I'm on page 184 of 326. I was even farther from "half read" before it provoked piece that lurks somewhere between a poem and a paragraph. I'm actually enjoying the book- overall- and expect I'll end up giving it 4 out of 5 stars. However, that bisexual in the subtitle set me off; as a bisexual woman, I have felt excluded from much of this book

Don't fucking add me to make yourself feel better PC-wise. I see a male body I wanna screw. I see a female body I wanna screw. I see a body so completely outside the gender binary that pronouns seem wrong for this person I wanna screw. I love women, romantically, sexually, spiritually, but that doesn't mean I'm a lesbian. My identity is mine, what I declare it to be. I am bisexual. I am a (cisgender) woman who loves women, mostly, but don't think to tell me what sort of woman (cis or trans?) that I should love. My coming out, once began, will never end. Nor do I want it to.

#WIPiTuP In Joelle's brain, everything is crazy and well at the same time, but porn

Sharing WIPs (works in progress) can be so very fun! On this lovely blog hop, enjoy a bunch of authors sharing excerpts of what they're working on- get ready to add some great books to your TBR, once the author publishes :) Although occasionally you may find an author sharing a published work. Give 'em a break- these may just be roughly edited- but please do leave a comment! We authors like to know we're going in a good direction.

So I was getting set to write some more in "Tabitha and Bina in Love" for you all to enjoy this week- Tab's been talking at me anyway about getting back to her heart to heart with her dear calico who will somehow get her to stop stressing about her first cyber date with Bina- but then Vala started babbling at me in the midst of crazy church related stuff as well as work on my blog (posts for Monday and Tuesday done before church service at 8pm EST- I do love going to an online church :D). She has great timing, huh? Kinda like Melody's annoying yellow inner voice (and I've probably put those words together out of order lol).

Are you gonna keep babbling at them? My turn!

Vala, you are such a brat! I'm gonna get The Queen over here.

Vala snorts. Right. And you want him to notice that you're not getting to Annikka's nits on "Skipping"? "Oh my sweetest, most loving Queen? Joelle isn't getting her work done. I don't know she deserves the chance to invite you to her bed anymore, my Queen."

The Queen echoes Vala's snort. His grin is wide and predatory. "Joelle, really? You are going to have Vala and I talking with you rather than working on your other WIP? The blurb waiting for the one that you plan to submit some time this coming week- maybe even before this conversation goes live?"

"Well I'm busy! There's so much to do. I don't feel entirely well. How about I work on Tabitha and Bina after church?" I bat my eyelashes at The Queen, knowing that it wouldn't work on my Master either. "I'm just wound and this probably isn't the best space for me to be writing fiction in. Won't you come spend some time with me as I work on the #sexUUality posts later?"

He laughs, great big belly laughs. _{Vala wipes the tears from his cheeks before he straightens back up.} "You sure are managing a lot of cheek tonight. Which of the principles are you on?"

"Second. I've only finished the first principle so far and I wanted to finish the principles during February. Of course, the hops on Monday, Tuesday, and today don't help."

He rolls his eyes at me. "Pretending you are not writing this Sunday evening? I will help you only if you swear not to work during service tonight; the most you should be doing otherwise is chatting with Annikka. Got it?"

"Yup. I'll behave." I giggle as he shakes his head. "Yeah, I know. My Master teases when I say that to Him."

"My Queen," Vala whines. "She's being so rotten."

"Whose submission should you be caring about?" His glare holds her still.

"Mine or my submissives, my Queen." After he wanders away, she wrinkles her nose at me. "You're lucky. I bet someone just made him come so he was in a good mood."

"Shove it." I laugh at Vala. "I'm doing what I'm supposed. Are you?"

... psst... The Queen's the same religion as me...

#Taboo2sday panties in a clothing optional mind lacks naughtiness

Are you ready for some challenging, taboo fiction? You never know what you'll find. Maybe 8 to 10 sentences of a taboo erotic book, maybe 100 words of a book review or a statement about a particular taboo. I dare you to consider each taboo participant's writing!

Panties. I don't get panties, pulling down panties, not removing them. Quite the hot thing in erotic fiction. Don't get. I don't wear panties. Like ever. Hell, I barely wear clothes, although in this brutally cold winter this year, I am wearing more than I ever do. I don't get this need for covering, for modesty. Of course this extends to other things I don't get. Like why is exhibiting one's spanked bum while doing corner time a punishment? My clothing optional mind will just never get this hint of naughtiness about panties- I guess that's why we need Emily Tilton on this hop, huh, Emily? :D

#MasturbationMonday He pleasures himself #male #masturbating #prostate

http://masturbationmonday.kaylalords.com/masturbation-monday-week-25/

Ah, and with this week's picture, I pull from the part of me that's much more of sex educator than erotic fiction writer. Well maybe :D. Jokes, conversations about masturbation on Facebook (after I was told last week that some people found my promo offensive (#MasturbationMonday Time for Bina to masturbate to something Tabitha wrote) led to an interesting conversation about prostate massage- the highlight :D of which was my Master joking "My prostate has a cramp and needs rubbed" (I don't think that's actually possible, since the organ is a collection a fluid-filled glands lol). I'm now re-reading Dr. Charlie Glickman's "Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure."  In the midst of this reading, I went on pornhub.com and searched "prostate message"- I was excited to find a short clip of a man masturbating while externally massaging his prostate.

He strokes his cock, languorous hand movements. He uses his left hand, his non-dominant hand, to prolong the moment, the pleasure. His right hand glides over his chest, working his nipples into pebbled perfection. The images flash through his mind, the window display in the Victoria's Secret at the mall, the delicious young man running the frozen yogurt stand (just barely, obviously not jailbait anymore). He pushes his mind on to the porn clips he enjoyed before moving to his bed.

He pauses to pump some lube onto his hands. With a slicked left palm, he returns to the lazy caresses to his hardened cock. Up and down, up and down. His thumb presses against the vein along the front of his cock, the one that trembles with his pleasure.

He bends his knees to place his feet flat on the bed. Right arm flexed in its reach, he strives to relax the arm so his fingers can reach their destination. The fingertips slide across his sac and the stimulation makes his cock jump in response. He wiggles his shoulders to gain further looseness, further reach. His middle finger glides down his 'taint, the lube making it feel wonderful. He flattens his finger as Dr. Charlie's book says and presses, making sure not to jab.

The first dribbles of prostatic fluid drips from the head and he moans deeply. Promising himself to go slower next time now that he's located his prostate externally, he changes hands. His stronger right hand wraps around his cock and speeds up. His wet left hand resumes the massage, massaging deep and hard on his prostate. Groaning, sighing, shaking, the orgasm sweeps through his body in the way he imagines an orgasm feels for a woman.

Ropes of white cum cover his hand; his left middle finger slides into his asshole as he reclines in the joy of his full body orgasm.

"Slower next time," he murmurs and smiles.

My complete review of "Love Spanks" anthology

So I hope you've enjoyed the rolling release of my review :D First a bit for #FFFiction, a little more on a linked review  on Amazon. Here's all 981 words in their crowning glory :D

http://www.amazon.com/Love-Spanks-2015-Collection-Spankings-ebook/dp/B00T6SN8Z6/ref=cm_rdp_product

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I received this book as a free ARC in exchange for a fair and honest review, but then I bought myself a copy too; the stories are wonderful, more than worth their 99 cent price.

I loved these stories first on the authors' websites during the Love Spanks event from February 6th-8th. However many are longer than what was shared during the event- word limit 2000. Even in the case of stories I didn't like so much, the extra words helped me to understand and enjoy different characters more. The introduction by Nikki Busch and Cindy Rizzo from Ylva Publishing added great knowledge and history to this anthology.

"The Snow Liger" by Jae: I love paranormal romance and Jae's story with a shifter and her human mate was gorgeous. So many little author details made it more enjoyable for me. Griffen and Jorie maneuvered through winter in Michigan's UP. "Writer research" made me laugh aloud.

"Mistress on Her Knees" by Anastasia Vitsky: As a lifestyle submissive and a polyamorous person, I struggled through this story even as I loved every moment of it. Trinity's thoughts gave it such a wondrous depth. However, the absolution that Graciela gives Trinity- and I feel this is only a tiny piece of it- is such a perfect act of dominance that I can't wait to see more of these characters.

"Sweet Sherrie" by Louisa Bacio: From Louisa's introduction on her blog through her additional anthology words, I loved this story. The idea that two women having sex can be rough! The tease of the title is wonderful considering what Sherri shows Desiree (and us readers) of herself in the story is anything but sweet and naive.

"Learning to Trust" by Olivia Starke: I need to admit that I didn't want to like this story at all. Madeleine's thoughts on vanilla versus kinky sexuality pissed me off- that said, my dislike is more about me than the lovely woman that Olivia wrote. By the time we get to the end of Casey and Madeleine's story, the sweetness of their trust is evident.

"The Briefcase" by Sara Daniel: Rhea and Sadie made for spanky, raunchy fun in this story! Sadie doesn't know what Rhea (her boss) plans and the extra story included in this anthology made this one hot read!

"Bank Shot" by Geonn Cannon: Meg and Gretchen's story- lovingly enhanced by its extra words. I loved how much of the additional story wasn't even sex, but flirting. How the two women banter and flirt is utterly enjoyable.

"Just Desserts" by Tara Quan: Wow! The extra words totally made this story worth it. Allison and her mother are crazy sweet to me and I love Allison working on Felicity.

"Spanking Sidney" by Leigh Ellwood: With Sidney and Kit, I was ecstatic to have an example of Kit learning how to use toys more, how to be less vanilla. Sidney in so many ways is a great teacher. The erotic level of this story is amazing from beginning to end.

"Just Chaps" by Alyssa Linn Palmer: Alex and Elly had me from the beginning of this story, even if I could relate better to Alex. Elly though, I've been a pillion rider for my dominant and I could empathize. The sex scene was more than worth the time it took to read the gorgeous, detailed set up that Ms. Palmer wrote.

"Discovery" by Anne Ferrer Odom: I loved the gamer ethic in this story, giggled at Madison's calling Harper, "Harpie." Such attention to detail throughout the wonderful story. I loved seeing Madison's pansexuality talked about.

"Accidental Date" by Erik Schubach: A red t-shirt. I had a Star Trek thought, but that didn't keep me from enjoying this hilariously erotic accidental date that was so engaging, I didn't even notice the lack of graphic sex.

"The First of Many" by Caitlin Ricci and Cari Z.: "Camellia" has so been added to my to-be-read pile, and I hope that reading this beautiful story doesn't spoil it too much for me. :D Danny and Lucy are wonderful. I love a Domme who isn't a straight man's fantasy. Danny's submission is luxurious and satisfying.

"Gold Rush" by Cathy Pegau: I beyond adore historical romance and this story more than delivered on its promise. I love the details, the characters' names (formally, P.E. Frankle and Rowena Taylor). The setting of Alaska during the Gold Rush is almost a whole character of its own. Lovely.

"Terci's Dream" by Kate Richards: Ms. Richards does a great job with setting in this dreamy short story. Terci's emotions were so upfront and honest. I loved Mistress' dialogue, how she instructed Terci in being a better person. The end- a beautiful treat.

"Dating Storm" by Victoria Cobretti: Another paranormal romance for me :D I loved it. There was just enough world-building in it that my fantasy geek was pleased. There was such exciting tension in this story along side the endearing romance. I loved the attempted first dates and Maggie's final act of working with Kalila's life.

"Love in Disguise" by Jessica E. Subject: I love, love, loved this story! Talk about world-building! Ms. Subject did an amazing job with Aeria and Sophie! Such attention to detail in this story. The surprise ending (only in published anthology) makes this a great, hot, romantic read.

My review of "Love Spanks"! #FF #spanking #romance #FFFiction

I invite you to consider what makes a woman. Some Fridays, I'll even share something sexy :D.

"Love Spanks" review

An event including 17 authors focusing on F/F fiction (much of it spanking related) for 3 days online? Yum! Having taken part in Anastasia Vitsky's events in the past, I knew to await the anthology of short stories to be published after the event completed. I especially loved how many of the stories had additional story (over the event-shared story) in the anthology. The short stories run the gamut from sweet (Erik Schubach's "Accidental Date" doesn't describe graphic sex) to the graphic (I loved Louisa Bacio's "Sweet Sherrie" for its instance that love between women can be rough.)

If you want to read my 589 word review, click on this link for Amazon.com. If you want to read my 891 word celebration of the book, come back on 2/20 and this link will work.

#sexUUality The UU 1st Principle and my triune sexual/relational identity

Continuing on with #sexUUality today (you can read my first post under this tag here), I want to write about the 1st UU principle- "We, the member congregations of the Unitarian Universalist Association, covenant to affirm and promote: The inherent worth and dignity of every person." You can go to the UUA's website to read more about the Principles and our Sources here.

From my perspective outside of so many sexual norms, much of what is considered the sexual/relational norm isn't respectful of people's inherent worth and dignity and that's part of why the #seUUality tag is so important, why it's so important that UU clergy are also blogging under the tag. As I've considered this post, my intention and focus keep shifting. I know that part of this is my triune sexual/relational identity- bisexual, polyamorous, BDSM-identified (or kinky, as I most often say). I'm going to start with polyamory.

In a conversation with a friend, I wrote this:

because to me, it isn't respectful of people's inherent worth and dignity when we force people to be monogamous, when we engage in serial monogamy, when we don't allow space for a mature and honest polyamory and I always hold that no matter how difficult, there has to be space for other sexuality, however that is seen.

This is the heart of one issue for me- compulsory monogamy, often paired with compulsory heterosexuality. I would like to ask my readers to ruminate on "how do you can you say you respect someone's inherent worth and dignity if you want to force them to live their sexuality differently than what feels natural and right to them?" Too many people react to a person stating "I am polyamorous." as if it is a statement against their relational identity/style. I am polyamorous- I'm not asking *you* to be other than you are. I'm not telling you how or with whom I engage with sexuality- just that I prefer to engage in romantic relationships with more than one persona at a time AND with everyone's knowledge and consent.

Is my inherent worth and dignity dependent on *your* worth and dignity? *Your* understanding and/or approval of how I live my life? If I'm asking you only to accept the reality of my life, not asking you to change yours, why do people feel the need to dismiss polyamory?

It seems that many people use some sort of feminist logic to jump from polyamorous people to polygamy to the repressive patriarchal sort of polygamy practiced by some fundamentalist Mormons. Yes, too many women in that final sort of polygamy are there against their wills and don't really know there's another choice. Is it respectful of a polyamorous person's worth and dignity to assume their reality is the same as those women you saw on late night news?

By that same measure, we struggle with stereotypes of BDSM. Even before "Fifty Shades of Grey" (which by the way, if it was really a consensual BDSM relationship, it would be considered a total power exchange, which is a less common form of BDSM), too many people not into BDSM assumed it's all about pain and torture. I love what an BDSM erotic romance author of friend of mine once said- "BDSM is like a huge tent where all sorts of fetishes are welcome."

Let me start by explaining some of my BDSM dynamic with my dominant. In BDSM terminology, I identify as a lifestyle submissive. BDSM isn't something I just do in the bedroom. That isn't to say that I have a total power exchange; I make plenty of my own decisions that my Master doesn't necessarily like- among them is to continue engaging in UU spirituality and spaces no matter how many times I've been hurt in them, how many times my trust, my inherent worth and dignity has been violated in them. Much of my BDSM lifestyle is about service to my Master; to a "vanilla" or non-kinky person, my life can look much like an average 1950's housewife. I cook. I clean. I satisfy Him sexually. Sometimes I struggle with feelings of monotony, of "Why clean it up when the house will only be dirty again later?" like some woman talked about in Betty Friedan's "The Feminine Mystique." More often however, I enjoy the service, I enjoy pleasing my dominant by making His life easier and more enjoyable than it might be without me in His life.

Yes, I do enjoy many of the stimulation activities that could be considered painful. We have a small bag with various whips, paddles, and other toys in it. But that's not every day, all the time. That's not "Master is home for work so it's time to take the dirty things out of His work bag and then rub His sore legs and feet before He puts on lounge pants and slippers to relax before going to bed." The thing is, even if the stereotypes of BDSM were more part of our relationship- whips and bondage, pain and torture- that would be fine as long as both my dominant and I wanted it, as long as we both consented to it. Because unlike all too many non-BDSM relationships, my Master and I regularly talk about what we both enjoy sexually. Open, honest, direct communication between two adults.

So I've spent most of this post on polyamory and BDSM- now I'm going to mention bisexuality. That piece of my sexual/relational orientation has been harder. I came out as bisexual when I was 15, but through different religious stops before I made it to UU, I wandered in sexual identity as well. I'd come to embrace queer as a label, much in the way that many millennials and younger do now, in the way that it's talked about on the UUA queer identity page. I was glad to find the Welcoming Congregation program when I stumbled into UU as an adult; I was even happier to find Interweave Continental's bisexuality curriculum- although I feel more UUs need to complete it. In my experience, too many people (including UUs who attend congregations that have completed the Welcoming Congregation curriculum and have been given that designation) fail to use language more inclusive of bisexual people, the variety of relationships they may be in (polyamorous or promiscuous, but stereotypes would have all of us being the latter), and that fights against the very real problems of bi-invisibility and -erasure. This is one place for the suggestion (from polyamorous people) of saying partner or partners comes to play.

Respecting a person's inherent worth and dignity means including diverse identities, asking for the words a person prefers (gender, sexuality, relational especially), and working to let go of our stereotypes and assumptions. When I write erotic romance, I bring all these thoughts and complexities into my writing.

Further reading from UUs from Polyamory Awareness on how polyamory and the UU Principles and Purposes. http://uupa.org/Literature/polyprinciples.html

#WIPiTuP Tabitha sends an email for Bina and herself #FF

Sharing WIPs (works in progress) can be so very fun! On this lovely blog hop, enjoy a bunch of authors sharing excerpts of what they're working on- get ready to add some great books to your TBR, once the author publishes :) Although occasionally you may find an author sharing a published work. Give 'em a break- these may just be roughly edited- but please do leave a comment! We authors like to know we're going in a good direction.

So after the experiment of sharing the chapter-piece that was originally in Tabitha's POV, but I re-wrote in Bina's POV for some balance in chapter length, this week I'm sharing from the in-progress chapter that I'm now writing to balance POVs.

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Tabitha re-read the poly call. Then she started to write.

Dear editor (as I'm unsure sure who has this project),

Looking at the polyamory call, I would like to ask if you would accept a submission of a short story written by two authors? Bina Syntha (who was published in Rainbow's experimental erotica anthology) and I would like to write a piece together. Thanks for your time.

Sincerely, Tabitha Loving.

Tabitha clicked send and then sat back to consider what she would do next. "I did tell Bina I was going to write the second half of Raya and Irene." The huskiness of her voice surprised her.

This will be a great date, she typed in the story's file before smiling and deleting the sentence. A thought stopped her. I wonder if she'll read this second part before she starts getting ready for our date?

#Taboo2sday Why is talking about masturbation so taboo?

Are you ready for some challenging, taboo fiction? You never know what you'll find. Maybe 8 to 10 sentences of a taboo erotic book, maybe 100 words of a book review or a statement about a particular taboo. I dare you to consider each taboo participant's writing!

I'm going to do a little cross-blog hop writing here. I also participate in Masturbation Monday. I find even without religious injunctions against the activity, we are still uncomfortable admitting that people can find sexual release by themselves. One thing I most disliked in "Fifty Shades of Grey" was the idea that Anastasia had never masturbated; I didn't feel enough backstory was given to justify a 24 year old never having touched herself. Why are "we" so ashamed to admit we masturbate? It's something I've thought about as an erotic fiction author- I know some people will masturbate to what I write. I hope they enjoy themselves.

Tabitha's story leads to Bina to masturbate #MasturbationMonday #FF

http://masturbationmonday.kaylalords.com/masturbation-monday-week-24/

I reached into my WIP "Tabitha and Bina in Love" when I saw the prompt Kayla gave us this week. I start with a blog post of Tabitha's and how Bina responds to reading it. Since they are about 8 hours apart, lots of imagination is needed for their masturbation :D

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So I wrote this... what would happen if two erotic romance authors fell in love?

Raya read the email again. She smiled at the sweet fan mail. She pulled on her bottom lip at the last line, sweet Irene asking if, hoping against hope that it wasn't too forward of her to ask Raya on a date.

But what sort of date? We're five hours apart, thought Raya. She contemplated things. Well they could have a sort of online date. They could enjoy dinner and a movie on Youtube.com together. Then, maybe, if things were going well, a video chat? And what they could show each other? Show what?

Raya shuddered against her office chair.

Bina reached into her loose slacks, the cotton sliding over her hand as she pushed her pussy lips apart with her searching fingers. She moved the page down with her other hand. Her fingers started to move as she continued reading Tabitha's story.

She scrolled until a large bunch of fresh story appeared. Then she reached under her shirt to pull on one nipple and then the other. She moaned aloud as Raya and Irene's date unraveled through Tabitha's story. Her fingers sunk into her pussy as she started to fuck herself. She heard the women laughing in their own apartments as they "watched" the movie together. She mashed her clit with her thumb.

#FFFiction What is a woman? Or my look at femininity and gender #FFFiction #lesfic

I invite you to consider what makes a woman. Some Fridays, I'll even share something sexy :D.

Breasts. Labia. Vagina. XX phenotype. How else might you define what "a woman" is? How fast do you get to culturally defined gender roles? All humans have some breast tissue- I've had one breast reduction and would jump at the chance for another; does that make me less a woman? Surgery, both consensual and non-consensual, can create labia; does that make them less womanly? Trans women can have a vagina surgically created, but the organ will never menstruate or produce children; does that make it not a real vagina? I read somewhere that Olympics phenotype testing has found "women" athletes who didn't have that XX, but identified as women. My world, both fictional and real, contains people living within and outside the gender binary. Cisgender, transgender, intersex, genderqueer. These identities and more, I think about as I'm writing, especially as I'm writing "sex scenes," another place I see things outside the binary.

So I'm going to push a little over the word limit with this- I'm currently reading the ARC of the "Love Spanks" anthology (expect my review next Friday), a celebration of FF love. It's still a preorder on Amazon; the release date is 2/14. http://www.amazon.com/Love-Spanks-2015-Collection-Spankings-ebook/dp/B00T6SN8Z6/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1423773183&sr=8-1&keywords=Love+Spanks

Sexuality & religion, BDSM, kinky, polyamory- I am a UU #sexUUality

Before you begin reading, I want to say today's post is not only breaking a lot of boundaries, it also contains a bunch of links. Many of these links are for you the reader to gain extra knowledge if you so desire.

I spend a lot of time thinking about boundaries. You see, what many others consider acceptable boundaries around discussion of sexuality, identity, and religion aren't the same ones I keep. I've had people pass on the received wisdom that talking about religion may mean that I'll sell less books; whether or not that's true, I refuse to follow that wisdom.

I live my whole life as a Unitarian Universalist. Whether I'm cleaning my Master's house, interacting and/or working online somehow, enjoying sex with my Master- and the many other things I do every day- I never stop being a UU throughout it. I am grateful to belong to a religion that does not devalue the body and bodily experiences (like some forms of conservative Christianity for instance). This is not to say my religion is perfect, neither I am. Although I did love :D a quote about love from one of my ministers recently :D.

Now I've already admitted that I'm not good at maintaining boundaries- I would like to qualify that by "boundaries that other people try to see without my impute that aren't about their own self-care." One thing that comes to me is the simple need to talk about sexuality so that it's normalized, so that it doesn't stop conversation- related especially to the birth control conversation, another UU's #sexUUality post clarified this for me- I love the title "warning: this post is about sex." :D

Have you come back yet from my fellow UU's post? :D Jordinn certainly did have a lot of good things to say. I'm going to outline for you the places where sexuality and my religion most intersect for me- my sexual identity that includes being bisexual, polyamorous, kinky/BDSM-identified, a cisgender ally of individuals who identify as trans or somewhere not on the gender binary. We have many affinity groups within UU-ism. At the moment, the group Interweave Continental, which is our GLBQIA+ group seems inactive. I'm always meaning to get more involved with UUs for Polyamory Awareness, but stuck in mid Michigan in a married couple (while still being polyamorous and hoping for a girlfriend), I've felt odd and out of place with other poly people. As far as my kink identity, there is Leather & Grace UUs for BDSM Awareness, where I'm a member of the steering committee.

I guess you can guess which part of my sexual/relational identity is very strong and hasn't felt supported by other UUs I've engaged with? I am a lifestyle submissive. The Man I love in a romantic sense is my dominant and husband, although Don being my dominant came long before the husband thing. Repeatedly when talking to other UUs, whether they just attended on Sunday morning or were involved in various running/planning things as I am, I have experienced exclusion and discomfort because I am kinky. Often for something as little as my being invited to something and I replied, "I need to call my partner." No matter how I censor myself and try to minimize any word choice that shows that I am asking my intimate partner for permission (in a consensual BDSM relationship btw) has made me "other" among UUs.

My Master contends that I go places looking to cause offense and be offended- He's not a UU, but I'll give Him some credit on His comment lol. The thing is, when I was having a problem at one UU congregation and I talked about my issues with some friend at the local munch (BDSM gathering), she said "But UUs are so open-minded. If you don't feel welcome there, then where?" Thus L&G's place in my life. I've been lucky though- while I was uncomfortable at one UU congregation in part because of my kink identity, I wasn't forced to leave. I have not been fired from a UU job for being kink-identified (even if I've felt a lack of pastoral care or welcome as a religious educator because of my identity). Others have not been so lucky and that's part of why L&G exists.

Something I often have to keep in mind that not everyone can be or chooses to be as open about their sexuality as I am. It doesn't even occur to me to worry about L&G's membership lists being kept confidential- even though they are confidential. However when it comes to other people, issues of confidentiality, of non-consensual "outing" are huge in my mind. I recently didn't share pictures of friends for a "love of friends" service at church (I go to the online Church of the Larger Fellowship) in part because of an ingrained worry for friends; I still remember friends getting threatened in high school merely for being my friend.

Before I let you go to read more of the links I've shared in this, I want to let you know that I'll be blogging more over the rest of February under the #sexUUality hashtag. My plan is at least 7 more posts- we UU's have 7 principles (but no creed) and you can read our principles and other beliefs summarized here- where I'll take each of our principles to focus on BDSM, polyamory, sexuality, and how they all figure in my life.

One thing my friends have gotten rather used to with me is nothing being "too much information" or "a forbidden topic"- I'll attempt to comment on most anything. So yes :D I pooped today :D It's late enough (my Master's works 3rd shift) that I don't think I'll be having sexual intercourse in any sort of traditional or pedestrian manner... I do hope to invite one of my dominant characters to enjoy one of his slaves for my enjoyment.

#WIPiTuP Version 2- Bina and Tabitha talk online after Tab's Drunken message #FF #spanking #BDSM #GBLTLit

Sharing WIPs (works in progress) can be so very fun! On this lovely blog hop, enjoy a bunch of authors sharing excerpts of what they're working on- get ready to add some great books to your TBR, once the author publishes :) Although occasionally you may find an author sharing a published work. Give 'em a break- these may just be roughly edited- but please do leave a comment! We authors like to know we're going in a good direction.

So I've dealt with the 3329 word chapter; it's broken in half, although that means I now have to write a brand new chapter in Tabitha's POV :D. In its two pieces, it's much closer to my average of 1600 word per chapter. If you want to see what it was like in Tabitha's POV, click here: http://joellecasteel.blogspot.com/2015/02/wipitup-bina-and-tabitha-talk-online.html . Now here is approximately the same area of story rewritten in Bina's POV. So this is after Tabitha goes to a bar, gets drunk, and decides to use the liquid courage to email Bina about her attraction, rather than going home with a random guy for casual sex. Bina replies to the drunken message, ending it with an invitation for Tabitha to message here.

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Tabitha Loving: Bina?

Bina clapped her hand over her mouth. She's on! Bina Syntha: Oh Tabitha :) I'm so glad you're up. How are you doing this morning?

Tabitha Loving: Hung over, as you worried, but I had some toast, water, and aspirin. I'm working on a cup of coffee now. I offended Lisa- my calico- by saying if only I had a big dog that could have tripped me and kept me off the computer last night. Not that I regret sending you the message. I'm so glad I sent it before I could change my mind. And bless you for taking the time to say that this isn't a one-sided attraction; you can't imagine how good that made me feel reading that this morning.

Bina laughed. Even hung over, she's still thinking like an author, a novelist, explaining her motivation. She traced her fingers over the edge of her fancy candy bowl as she considered Tab's words and how to respond to them. Finally she started typing. Bina Syntha: Aw, but I loved getting that message from you. I'm a chicken- even online- and I can't imagine how long it would have taken for me to gather the courage to say something like that to you.

She lay her head on the back of her armchair. The happiness traveled through her like a palpable thing. She looked back at her laptop to see Tabitha's comment waiting. She wiggled in her chair.

Tabitha Loving: It's easier to make our characters be daring than to do the same ourselves, isn't it? If I felt even half as confident as I've written Tara to be.

Bina Syntha: Well Tara is a sweet. I love how she takes care of Cara and Sara, how she encourages Cara to take care of Sara too. You're sweet too though. It's not like you had to offer to read my Sum/Yuri story, especially reading the call and seeing my piece was likely to be experimental. And you with so many novels published, me with just a short story.

Tabitha Loving: Not everyone can or needs to write novels though. The two short stories of yours that I've read so far are wonderful. Also writing erotic fiction, you have the further option of novellas instead of just short stories or novels.

Bina Syntha: But see? Here you are, all hungover, probably with a headache, and you're giving advice, trying to make me feel better about my own writing and publishing efforts. I really did enjoy Raya and Irene's story on your blog.

What does my comment say about her story? To her? I certainly wasn't surprised at her message after reading her story.

Tabitha Loving: Thanks so much. I think today, once this headache has gone away, I'll finish the second part of the story and get it up on my blog.

She smiled at Tabitha's promise. Bina Syntha: I can't wait to read it. I hope you'll write the web-cam date.

She couldn't help but imagine Tabitha's expression, wondering if she blushed at her fairly straightforward request for a sex scene that she could imagine herself and Tabitha in.

Tabitha Loving: so honest moment from me, yup my mother's sense of humor, this is my legal name.

So we're shifting away from flirting, but I'm grateful for her honesty. Bina Syntha: LOL Goodness but that had to suck in school; that name is made for school yard teasing.

Tabitha Loving: Yeah. I work a bunch in anti-bullying efforts now that it's become a recognized issue. I wish I was closer to Des Moines so I could be involved with the youth group they must have at the community center.

Bina Syntha: There's so much more that can be done online now though.

Bina wondered what Tabitha's writing space looked like, how she was dressed. Did she have a room dedicated to writing? Or did she write in the middle of everything?

Bina Syntha: Should we make this official somehow? Change our relationship statuses on Facebook? Talk about what we're comfortable with? What we want?

Tabitha Loving: Thank you so much. We've been skirting any more relationship talk huh? It's funny how important those relationship statuses are. Of course, changing it. We have a "dating" choice or something, right? Do you have a separate account in your legal name? Were you thinking that we should link our accounts?

Tabitha Loving: Yes, monogamous- we're not counting our characters, right? :D

Do only erotic romance authors have messed up conversations about whether or not our characters count as cheating in a monogamous relationship? Bina Syntha: No, I don't think our characters count as cheating. You'd link your account to mine? Be shown as dating me?

#Taboo2sday The term "fantasy shaming" makes me see red

Taboo... your taboo and my taboo are often different things

For the record, this is a "Fifty Shades of Grey" post- both books and movie.

One thing I've seen recently is the claim that saying FSoG is bad is fantasy shaming. That pisses me off. But then I see cries of shaming as attempts at silencing. Now before you start to get angry and try to point out privilege, I'm a member of various minority groups. Backing up though, fantasy shame- we're shaming people for their fantasies? What about people who live and breathe BDSM? Who enjoy elements and relationships including BDSM? IMHO, FSoG perpetuates dangerous myths about BDSM, about people like me. There's lots of books out there- many pure fantasy- but not as many as widely read and taken as fact as FSoG. I reserve my right to shame it <evil grin>.

#MasturbationMonday The birch paddle that marked me makes her cum #BDSM #FF

http://masturbationmonday.kaylalords.com/masturbation-monday-week-23/

Sooooo :D The picture inspired me... hopefully some hotness although some silliness as well. I give you yet another piece in "The Domme I'd actually enjoy being involved with"...

I watch her from the chair in which she has me restrained... cuffs at wrists and ankles, large bands of restraining leather at my waist and chest, posture collar and its stand connecting it to the chair preventing me from turning my head. She didn't allow me to dress before she tied me up, but it's warm so I don't really mind that lack of fabric. It's so much better to be naked, especially while that gorgeous dress she wore as she dominated me still clings, reveals and conceals what she meant it to.

She closes her eyes, her head slightly turned away from me. It's her right, of course. Her glittering scarlet nails catch my gaze as she piles her dress up, baring her hip closest to me, showing me her gorgeous legs.

My mouth goes dry as I picture those long legs wrapped around my head as I dip my mouth to taste her, to pleasure her. Again! I want that again! But she's bound me, legs spread apart so I can helplessly look at the arousal building between my legs, my clit swelling, my sticky juices seeping from my pussy to drip on the chair, cover my thighs.

Her hands dance between her legs. Suddenly she pulls the paddle she used on me up onto her mound. She clutches it in her right hand. She brushes it up and down, disturbing her dress. The black silk begins to pile up more around her waist. Laughing softly, she scoots her ass across the bed to give me a pretty view of her luscious pussy.

I can't hold in my moans as that paddle moves over her lips again. I see her beautiful wetness shining as the wood kisses her. I can't lower my head to look but I know my body shines in response. I fight the pleading words that collect in my throat.

She lifts exotically lashed eyes to look upon my response to her masturbation. "Joelle? Joelleyboo? Look at me, love."

She didn't. I force down my wildly inappropriate giggles at my Mistress' use of my nickname. I dream of ways to get even with she-who-must-not-be-named-but-gave-me-the-nickname.

"Do you see what your punishment has done to me? How your moans and cries have turned me on?"

"Yes, Mistress," I whimper.

"I'm going to come all over this paddle that left its mark on your skin." She groans, her body shuddering as she pushes against the birch in her hand.

I wish I could help. I want to make her orgasm just that much more earth-shattering.

She stills, a lovely smile playing on the corners of her lips. "That's my very good girl. I came, feeling your warmth on the paddle." She places the stick on the bed. and stumbles to her feet. "Shall we see if you can earn the right to masturbate me and earn your own orgasm?"

"Please, Mistress."

Adaline Raine visits with "The Medic of Brighton Creek" #spanking #MF #eroticromance

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Hi Joelle! Thank you for having me over today. I'm sharing the scene where Mikayla snaps at Sam. This happens quite often in the beginning of the book as she is trying to keep him from finding out why she left her hometown. He has had enough of her behavior and tells her in so many words that he will face her challenge.

Be sure to stop by http://brattyadaline.blogspot.com/2015/01/medictour.html to see all the stops along the way. I'm giving away free books as well as sharing snippets and chatting about all sorts of things!

Excerpt
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“Yeah, whatever,” Mikayla muttered as she headed out. To her dismay, she heard him following her. Why had she said that damn word again? She stopped and turned around. 
“Sam—”

“Listen, I don’t know what’s gotten into you lately, but I haven’t done anything to deserve the lip you’re giving me.”

“Well then, maybe you should do something about it.” Shocked at her own response, her hands flew to her mouth as his eyebrows nearly shot to the top of his forehead. “I didn’t mean—”

“Go return the truck. Then come out and get into mine.”

She bit her lip, horrified at her attitude, then finally nodded and slid inside the cab. True to his word, he followed in his own truck.

Back at the inn, she made a point to literally toss the keys to Bonnie once she stepped over the threshold of the inn. “Be back soon… I hope.”

“Who the hell did you piss off? You look like someone’s about to blister your ass.” 

Mikayla cocked her head to the side and Bonnie turned beet red. “Seriously? Is it Sam? Are you pushing him again? Why can’t your head learn what your heart already knows?”

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Blurb

Returning to her hometown for her best friend’s wedding, Mikayla Turner doesn’t expect to run into her teenage crush, handsome paramedic Sam Brighton, within a matter of moments. But after her car runs off the road in a snowstorm, she seeks help at the nearest house and is shocked when it is Sam who answers the door—still as sexy as she remembers him.

Sam patches her up and lets her stay at his home until the weather improves, but he makes it clear that there will be consequences should she choose to disobey him during her stay. Mikayla has grown up in the years she’s been away, but she still finds herself craving Sam’s dominance, and she is unable to resist putting his warning to the test. After Sam takes her in hand and bares her bottom for a sound spanking, Mikayla has never felt closer to him, and though it leaves her blushing, his thorough, intimate medical care makes her feel safer and more loved than she’s ever felt before.

When the local doctor takes some time off, Sam steps in to help out and he asks Mikayla to stay and serve as his receptionist. She agrees, but she can’t help worrying that Sam’s attraction to her is short-lived and that one day he will tire of her and push her away. Will self-doubt drive Mikayla to leave Sam and her hometown forever, or can she face her fears and learn to trust the man she loves?

Publisher’s Note: The Medic of Brighton Creek is an erotic romance novel that includes spankings, sexual scenes, medical play, anal play, and more. If such material offends you, please don’t buy this book.

Buy Links

Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Medic-Brighton-Creek-Adaline-Raine-ebook/dp/B00SBRSQ82

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Author Bio

Adaline Raine is an avid reader of spanking romance and is known for reviewing every book she touches! Her latest release is The Medic of Brighton Creek about a young woman who returns home for her best friends wedding and finds herself longing for the dominance her longtime crush, Sam Brighton used to provide while she was there. Soon they are together as she always dreamed of but her doubts leave her unsure. Sam wastes little time in taking her in hand as well as caring for her. Be sure to check out this sweet contemporary romance with medical play and domestic discipline.

Devon's Discipline, her supernatural release, is about a young college junior stuck on a downwards spiral after the tragic loss of both of her parents. She meets Professor Matthews who has little tolerance for disrespect and he helps set her straight again through physical discipline.

Marked by the Alpha, Adaline's premiere story, literally shows us an alpha male werewolf turning his chosen mate over his knee for some well needed attitude adjusting.

Becoming a Lady, her second release, showcases spankings in a historical setting. Our lovely main character is poor and abused so when a tall man drugs her and steals her away from her village she is confused by his actions. He takes his time to teach and guide but his methods include his hand and her hind.

Adaline has also become known for her love of creating graphics for others. She has designed custom banners and buttons for various blog hops throughout the community including "Spank or Treat 2013";"Winter Spanks 2014"; "Summer Spanks 2014", as well as the headers and backgrounds at Bratty Addy. Her exclusive feature, Addy's Couch takes guests books covers and fashions them into a one-of a kind piece for fun or promotional purposes. Contact Adaline at brattyadaline at gmail dot com if you would like her to create something for you!

Adaline runs an active blog on blog spot brattyadaline.blogspot.com as well as a Spanking Romance board on Pintrest http://www.pinterest.com/adalineraine/

You can also find her on Twitter handle Adaline_Raine or on Facebook Raine.Adaline

#WIPiTuP Bina and Tabitha talk online after Tab's Drunken message #FF #spanking #BDSM #GBLTLit

Sharing WIPs (works in progress) can be so very fun! On this lovely blog hop, enjoy a bunch of authors sharing excerpts of what they're working on- get ready to add some great books to your TBR, once the author publishes :) Although occasionally you may find an author sharing a published work. Give 'em a break- these may just be roughly edited- but please do leave a comment! We authors like to know we're going in a good direction.

I've decided to try something different this week and next. I had a chapter of 3329 words, whereas my average in this book has been closer to 1600. I found I could divide it approximately in half. I'm going to share from the second half, as it is now this week, and next week I'll share the same area, but as I'm rewriting it in Bina's POV. So this is after Tabitha goes to a bar, gets drunk, and decides to use the liquid courage to email Bina about her attraction, rather than going home with a random guy for casual sex. Bina replies to the drunken message, ending it with an invitation for Tabitha to message here.

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Tabitha Loving: Bina?

Bina Syntha: Oh Tabitha :) I'm so glad you're up. How are you doing this morning?

Tabitha laughed. Tabitha Loving: Hung over, as you worried, but I had some toast, water, and aspirin. I'm working on a cup of coffee now. I offended Lisa- my calico- by saying if only I had a dog that could have tripped me and kept me off the computer last night.

Bina Syntha: Aw, but I loved getting that message from you. I'm a chicken- even online- and I can't imagine how long it would have taken for me to gather the courage to say something like that to you.

Tabitha Loving: It's easier to make our characters be daring than to do the same ourselves, isn't it? If I felt even half as confident as I've written Tara to be.

Bina Syntha: Well Tara is a sweet. I love how she takes care of Cara and Sara, how she encourages Cara to take care of Sara too. You're sweet too though. It's not like you had to offer to read my Sum/Yuri story, especially reading the call and seeing my piece was likely to be experimental. And you with so many novels published, me with just a short story.

Tabitha Loving: Not everyone can or needs to write novels though. The two short stories of yours that I've read so far are wonderful. Also writing erotic fiction, you have the further option of novellas instead of just short stories or novels.

Bina Syntha: But see? Here you are, all hungover, probably with a headache, and you're giving advice, trying to make me feel better about my own writing and publishing efforts. I really did enjoy Raya and Irene's story on your blog.

Tabitha pulled on her bottom lip. Didn't come off as scary? Tabitha Loving: Thanks so much. I think today, once this headache has gone away, I'll finish the second part of the story and get it up on my blog.

Bina Syntha: I can't wait to read it. I hope you'll write the web-cam date.

Lisa meowed at Tabitha.

"No I'm not blushing, thank you very much," Tabitha grumbled at the questioning meow. She took another sip of her coffee, trying to ignore the heat in her face.

Tabitha Loving: so honest moment from me, yup my mother's sense of humor, this is my legal name.

Bina Syntha: LOL Goodness but that had to suck in school; that name is made for school yard teasing.

Tabitha Loving: Yeah. I work a bunch in anti-bullying efforts now that it's become a recognized issue. I wish I was closer to Des Moines so I could be involved with the youth group they must have at the community center.

Bina Syntha: There's so much more that can be done online now though.

Tabitha wondered what Bina's writing space looked like, how she was dressed.

Bina Syntha: Should we make this official somehow? Change our relationship statuses on Facebook? Talk about what we're comfortable with? What we want?

Tabitha Loving: Thank you so much. We've been skirting any more relationship talk huh? It's funny how important those relationship statuses are. Of course, changing it. We have a "dating" choice or something, right? Do you have a separate account in your legal name? Were you thinking that we should link our accounts?

#Taboo2sday Bina's size #BDSM #spanking #FF #GLBTLit #fatshaming

Taboo is often in the mind of the beholder. Sometimes taboo makes the thing hotter, sometimes it makes hotness hard to find.

There was something up with the linky list so Emily Tilton and I just traded URLs; here's the link to her #Taboo2sday post: http://etiltonexplorations.blogspot.com/2015/02/what-joe-really-wants-in-a-bride.html .

When it was time to share something for Taboo Tuesday, I pondered what. I've shared so much from the first three books of my Vala's Story series that I didn't want to share from it. Then I thought of "Tabitha and Bina in Love," my nano novel 2014. Thanks to the Lesbian book readers club on Facebook, I've engaged in tons of thought that I hope serves to make this a wonderful female/female erotic romance. One taboo I've come to with these characters is that Bina is a plus sized woman while Tabitha is chunky, curvy- both women are roughly comfortable working on fat-shaming. (I hope you don't mind a few sentences more than 10 :D) And here's Bina at a coffeehouse ordering a cherry Italian soda...

Behind her, she overheard a just barely whispered, "No diet's gonna help her."

Bina whipped around to look at the two yuppie women in their perfect outfits. "How dare you stand in judgment of my body without knowing my story! It so happens that after fleeing an arranged marriage and loosing my entire family, I'm trying to make it on a temp salary. That means eating a lot of cheap food that's fattening."

"Sorry," the women murmured together.

Bina returned her attention to the barista.

"Congrats for standing up for yourself," the barista murmured. "People really shouldn't judge."

"Thanks."

"That'll be on the house."

#MasturbationMonday In the team of Tabitha and Bina, Tab takes care of Bina... this time #FF #erotic

http://masturbationmonday.kaylalords.com/masturbation-monday-week-22/

Hm, a team thing... I was thinking on my lovely ladies Bina and Tabitha (quick vent, Bina is a plus sized woman and I was so pissed when I looked at Lane Bryant for panty ideas to find that they don't use plus sized models)... but I have a rough scene sketched out with Tabitha driving like 8 hours to take care of Bina when she's felled by a nasty case of the flu. When she's heading towards better, this interaction takes place... in Bina's POV. Way rough draft, so please be gentle.

Bina studied herself in the full size mirror that Tabitha had bought her- "to help with those affirmations you want to start," her love had said. Part of her wondered how much this week of flu, of alternately throwing up and being uninterested in food, had taken in pounds from her body. Her fingers poked and prodded at her chest and the stomach, moved down to her thighs.

"I am not the number on a scale," Bina said to her reflection. "I am lovable as I am."

Tabitha stopped just enough to the left of Bina that she was visible in the mirror as well. She wrapped one arm around Bina's waist, her fingers dipping into riotous curls of pubic hair.

Bina turned her head to kiss Tabitha's sweet lips. "My love."

"You are beautiful," Tabitha murmured before kissing Bina's neck. "Let me." Her fingers slid between the slick pussy lips.

Bina moaned softly. "You keep taking care of me—"

"I love to take care of you," Tabitha insisted as the pads of her fingers teased Bina's clit.

If I say something about my weight, she won't like it. Bina tilted her hips to press into Tabitha's caresses. She looked into Tab's eyes in the mirror.

"You are the most beautiful woman in the world." Tab kissed Bina's neck again.

"In your eyes, don't you mean?" Bina gasped when Tabitha's response was to thrust two fingers up into her pussy.

"You are beautiful and you deserve this pleasure."

Bina groaned in her growing arousal, her thighs quivering. "I am beautiful and deserve this pleasure." She sighed. "But don't you deserve pleasure too?"

"My pleasure now comes from touching you." Tabitha traced Bina's earlobe with her tongue.

Bina's voice growing husky, she moaned, "I'll come fast if you keep doing that."

"Is there a problem with that?" Tabitha's fingers pulled out slightly to return to giving Bina's engorged clit further attention.

"You reminded me I deserve this, so no problem." Bina pressed one palm against the wall. Pudgy— She interrupted the thought to gaze at Tab again.

"Very good." Tab pulled on Bina's earlobe with her teeth.

The pleasure zinged through Bina's body in waves.

"That's right. I wanna feel you come on my head, shona. Come for me."

Bina groaned at the waves of orgasm in her clenching pussy. "So weak," she whispered in her pleasure.

"Let's get you back to bed, love." Tabitha pressed a soft kiss to Bina's cheek.

Depending on how I'm feeling after some sleep, I may or may not give you some more :D Comments are entirely welcome because I hope to make this scene longer in the final draft than the 411 words it stands at currently.