For the record, this is a "Fifty Shades of Grey" post- both books and movie.
One thing I've seen recently is the claim that saying FSoG is bad is fantasy shaming. That pisses me off. But then I see cries of shaming as attempts at silencing. Now before you start to get angry and try to point out privilege, I'm a member of various minority groups. Backing up though, fantasy shame- we're shaming people for their fantasies? What about people who live and breathe BDSM? Who enjoy elements and relationships including BDSM? IMHO, FSoG perpetuates dangerous myths about BDSM, about people like me. There's lots of books out there- many pure fantasy- but not as many as widely read and taken as fact as FSoG. I reserve my right to shame it <evil grin>.