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Tuesday, May 20, 2014

#Taboo2sday ... review of "Disabled Desires Volume 1 (Wheelchair/disabled erotica)" by BJ Slippy

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Sometimes a sexual taboo becomes one because we don't want to talk about "it." I find that's the case with erotica/erotic romance where one or more characters are in some way differently abled, or disabled- I prefer the former term. I have to look more, but this was a good start for finding short stories, anthologies etc that contain erotica that focuses on differently abled people. I was happy to find "Disabled Desires 4..." by BJ Slippy, even if I had complaints that led me to giving 4 instead of 5 star review. Read my full review here on Amazon.

Now if you haven't gotten to my "Hop Against Homophobia" post- showing a little fiction with 2 cisgender men, 1 transwoman, and 1 one cisgender woman, you can do that here: http://joellecasteel.blogspot.com/2014/05/hahat-3-doms-and-vala-consider-gender.html

8 comments:

  1. Hi Joelle, erotica with differently abled characters is hard to come by. I thought it was a great, balanced review.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. thanks for the comment, Roz It was interesting to write the review- I really did want to like the book more, but it just wasn't up to a 5 star and I stand by my thought that utilizing the services of a beta reader and/or an editor would have been a huge help. We self-publishers have enough of a hard time with people assuming our writing is going to be crap with people putting out stuff that needs editing out there.

      But I definitely have my thoughts on some writing. Online it can be even easier to hide ability issues, but I identify as someone with a hidden disability, that being bipolar. I'm not into ability politics as much as I am other issues, but terms like "differently abled" and "neurotypical" are very much part of my every day vocabularly

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  2. Really interesting take on taboo, as always, Joelle!

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    1. thanks for the comment, Emily. While I don't think/know that my bipolar has necessarily stood in the way of me getting into a relationship, I have heard from a variety of people will visible ability issues, everything from using a wheelchair to having facial structures that showed them to have something wrong (ie MS, CP etc) and too many people almost seem to believe that "disabled people" should be sexless people. Just because it happens differently from the average doesn't mean much to me. After all, Iona came to bed with my last night ;D

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  3. I'm really glad you posted this, Joelle. I honestly had no idea such a genre existed, which is ironic considering I have CP and use a wheelchair. I'm disappointed to learn, from your review, that the author chose to ignore those of us who are born with our disabilities. Since I have both visible and invisible disabilities (CP and GAD), I get your point there too. I suspect the author's choice to focus on one type of disability may have had more to do with marketing though. There are people, commonly referred to as devotees, who are sexually attracted to a particular aspect of disability, like wheelchair users or amputees. I suspect they were targeting wheelchair devotees.

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    1. thanks for the comment, Ruth. Yes, I suspect the variety of issues as well. Beyond the wheelchair erotica, the author (who on materials seems to be very careful to avoid any gendered pronouns) as well has some stories focusing on characters with blindness. IDK, while I both like that the genre exists I also have concern for the fetishizing of disability. As I try to simply have characters along the range of sexual orientation, gender identity & representation, I wish for erotica simply containing characters who are in some way disabled. But now, Ruth, I haven't gone on to look for other authors engaging in the writing of characters who are differently abled. If you've never been on the Kink Praxis blog (ze is in my blog roll) I recommend it to you; ze regularly writes about erotica and ability

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    2. Thanks for the recommendation. I will check it out. In general, in my experience, fetishizing of disability is looked upon EXTREMELY negatively by the disability community. I'm of two minds about it myself. On the one hand, it's not that big a deal to me; it's no different that being attracted to anything else about my body--eyes, hair, whatever. On the other hand, my one experience with someone with this fetish very quickly began to feel objectifying, which wasn't cool, and led to me quickly ending contact.

      It's kind of like this: I'm totally fine with someone being attracted to the wheelchair, but only as part of who I am, not to the exclusion of anything else

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    3. oh yes, it's complex. I struggle with it myself. My Master will joke that I'm crazy or that my mood swings are so bad that I "have personality switches not mood swings"- and yeah, it does sting sometimes. But I know that my bipolar is just one part of me to Him; He didn't collar me simply to have a non-neurotypical partner. However, I know that I can only speak from my experience of differently abled.

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